Skill and objectivity
I went to MM to seek help because I had difficulty coping with anger, small frustrations would trigger overwhelming rage; I had relationship problems; and although I had come out as gay I had a lot of negative feelings about my sexuality. After 6 months of weekly sessions I understand what triggers my anger and have learned to accept frustrations and deal with them in a way which avoids rage. I found that being able to off load my worries, pain, incomprehension about my relationship was in itself very helpful. Talking with someone who had no personal connection with me and who asked thoughtful and probing questions enabled me to see things from other points of view and to understand myself and my partner better. I now cope much better with problems in my relationship. I discussed my negative feelings about my sexuality and responded to questions which really made me think hard about my feelings and how it would be if I didn’t have them. As the sessions went on so I found that these negative attitudes seemed to fall away and I felt confident and accepting of my sexuality in a way which I had never done before. It is difficult to be precise about how these changes came about but I know that without the skill and objectivity of my counsellor in really making me think and re-examine myself I would still be where I was 6 months ago.