Advice on how to save and improve your relationship | Relationship Counselling / Therapy
What is relationship therapy?
Relationship counselling (sometimes known as couples counselling or marriage therapy) is a powerful form of psychotherapy. Sessions are held in a private setting with the goal of helping partners improve communication and resolving challenges in an intimate relationship.
What happens when you come for relationship therapy?
In the first session we normally discuss what's going on for you both. You will both be able to give your perspectives on what issues you are facing but also what you would like to achieve.
We can then agree on some objectives, which we will use in our sessions showing us a path forward.
Relationship therapists act as either a mediator, facilitator or a referee. We check to see what function/s is needed and then to integrate that back into your relationship.
We identify where misunderstandings and disappointments are occurring so that we can recognise the triggers for those. When we have done that we can look at solutions to ensure when those situations arise they can be handled in a different way.
At Nicholas Rose and Associates we recommend an initial session to see if we all agree that therapy might be helpful.
Tips for a healthy relationship…
Here are a number of tips that people have shared for what can help relationships, maybe some might work for you?
- You can remind yourself why you are still together.
Tell yourself why you love them and then tell them too. Try to spice up your relationship by having date nights, improving intimacy and being more affectionate.
- You can come to terms with the idea that you are both unique.
Maybe you are both very different people? This can actually be very beneficial if you learn to embrace it. In a healthy relationship if you learn to value each other's differences, you can also learn from it too.
- It can actually be okay to go to bed angry if you need to.
Often nothing can be resolved when angry. If you find yourself having an argument around bedtime, it might actually be better to go to bed and wake up in a better mood ready to resolve your problems.
- Relationships must evolve and grow in order to survive.
Your spouse and relationship are constantly changing. If you think about how it used to be when you first met, then you are likely working backwards. It's more important to work out what you can do instead of comparing your relationship with the past.
- Set aside time for intimacy.
At the start of a relationship sex is often frequent as everything seems exciting. Once your relationship establishes and busy lives become more stressing, sex tends to become less frequent. When a relationship is suffering, sex often does too. One way to get through a rough patch could be by scheduling in time for sex. It's crucial for partners to be intimate in order to remind themselves of their strong connection.
- Increase the number of times you compliment each other.
When one or both partners feel neglected or unappreciated, a variety of relationship issues can arise, which is why compliments can go a long way toward repairing a relationship.
- Be Mindful When You're Together.
When established partners are together, they have a tendency to not spend as much time with each other as they used to. There's no correct amount of time other than that you both need to feel good about the relationship. Make sure you spend quality time with your partner on a regular basis, whether it's taking a stroll or being affectionate.
- Give Each Other The Benefit Of The Doubt.
Take a step back, look at your relationship for what it is, and put in an effort, and you should be able to work through practically any problem with ease.
- Don’t wait to get help
If you keep having the same arguments, or struggle changing painful patterns then seek help.
Further Relationship Therapy Assistance
If you require further assistance regarding our Relationship Therapy Services either Contact Nicholas Rose & Associates using the Enquiry form below or please telephone 020 8996 9551.